A philosopher once said, "Body is an instrument of the Self". Body is the material entity while the Self is the conscious entity experiencing the material world. Nobody has ever seen the Self but its presence is felt somewhere inside, somewhere behind our own eyes. You see others as material beings while you see yourself through an entirely different perspective. When you look inside you see the Self & not always your material body.
Falling in love is a beautiful feeling. We want love, we want to be loved & we all want someone to care about us. We want someone with whom we could feel that love, affection & care. When we are young and single, we dream about being with a perfect partner. Usually, people think of “A person who is made for me only”, “Somebody who could understand me” & “Somebody who could feel the same way as I do.” People at young age dream a lot about such things and the love songs & movies fuels these feelings.
Believe it or not, but these feelings do force us to look for that perfect partner. What we see in movies we look for it in the real life. People try to relate that movie or love story & their own life. While approaching the adulthood, we start getting attracted to opposite gender. And, it is not a magic (but hormonal changes) that we start feeling love & attraction for a person standing right in front of us or someone who usually spend time with us. Getting attracted to someone could happen in a second but falling in love takes quite longer than that.
When attraction slowly starts converting into love, our mind goes through so much of confusion & conflicts within. A part of our mind wants to accept that person & another part wants to reject. People then start thinking, “Am I actually meant to be with this Person?” They recall everything, from every interaction to every conversation they had with that person. Sometimes, they also feel that “Is it possible for me to find a better Partner?” or “Should I stay with this Person only?”
The answer of such question should be that you are meant to be with that person who:
- Stays with you & accompanies you
- Takes your problems & issues seriously
- Maintains a good relationship with you
- Make you feel Good & happy
- Help you in overcoming your limitations
- Motivates you to move forward in life
- Never encourages you to commit something wrong
- Fights with you for your own good
- Tell you what is right for you
- Loves you & wants to be with you forever
If you have these things in your relationship, then it shows that you & your partner are quite perfect for each other. It shows that “You both are ready for some serious commitment” & you are not just playing around with each other. Usually, players tend to teach wrong things to their partner because they do not really care, so, if your partner tells you to do something wrong, then you should rethink about your relationship.
Sometimes, people tend to think a lot about a person who does not really know them or interact with them. They spend a lot of their time thinking “If I should approach this person & make him/her my partner or not?” but the thing is “It is not that easy”. You cannot just make someone fall in love with you whenever you want to. It takes time. So, if you are living in some fantasy world then you will end up troubling your mind.
If you do not get the person you want then it is okay, you will find someone someday. But, “it is not okay if you start losing yourself for someone else”. We spend most of our life with ourselves, so loosing yourself is losing everything. You cannot get something, someone or someone’s love by loosing yourself. First, learn to learn yourself then you will understand what others want from you.
If you really like or love someone and it is getting very difficult for you to get this thought out of your head then:
- You should approach that person in a very normal way
- Try not to be over friendly or very rude with that person
- Find out that person’s preferences, likes & dislikes
- Make an emotional connection & establish a healthy relationship
- Finally, think about if you should move forward or not
These steps are very important to at least know if you would be able to get enough close or not. Sometimes, you feel attracted to someone but it ends as soon as you talk with that person because you start feeling that you do not really want this person. Therefore, it is better to approach and find out yourself “If you are meant to be with someone or not”.
Hope you will get the person you love & you have a happy life.
Also Read:
- What is Unconditional True Love?
- Understanding Love for Your Partner.
- Love Compatibility with Partner via Astrology
- Effect of Technology on our Relationships.
- Happiness is Felt The Moment You See The Real Truth.